First and foremost, I would like to sincerely apologize for the very apparent inactivity, and would like to thank everyone that continued to click the link in my bio regardless of my lack of consistency. Now, let’s jump in to this.
I am not exaggerating when I say that 2017 was undoubtedly the best year of my life. I moved to Europe for three months, traveled to eight countries and made unforgettable memories and friends. It was kind of a Julia Roberts year for me, as I underwent a period of very radical and deep introspection, self-reinvention and soul searching. (It was very Eat, Pray, Love of me.)
The experiences I had were out of this world and to explain them in one short article would be an injustice. As a method of condensing all that I have learned and done this past year, I give you the 17 things I learned in 2017.
1. Stay Woke.
I cannot stress this one enough. So many people have told me that they don’t watch the news or stay updated on the world around them because it makes them sad. Guess what? THE WORLD IS SAD. That’s the harsh reality of it. You help absolutely nobody by blatantly disregarding what is happening in your own society. How can you make a difference if you don’t even know what needs to be changed? Let’s all take a page from Childish Gambino in Redbone and STAY WOKE.
2. Work smart, not hard.
This was probably my motto for 2017, and one I will continue to uphold until I am on my deathbed.
3. Live your best life.
I lived my best life in 2017. So, I suggest in 2018 that we mind our own business and let each other live our best lives. Capiche?
4. Dress for success
We live in a very visual society. Drop the flannel, buy some booties and get taken seriously this year. First impressions are EVERYTHING.
5. No Mo’ FOMO
FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) is real. But Netflix, Netflix is everything. Stay your butt home, remain a child of the Lord and catch up on Narcos. It’s that easy.
6. Fake it ’til you make it.
Even if you don’t have confidence, do everything as if you did. People will generally buy any BS you sell them, honey. So werk it, babe.
7. Trust God.
This one may seem hard to do, but trust me when I tell you to trust God. It is all we can do.
8. Speak your truth.
Let’s stop putting lol at the end of every honest sentence we write as a means of cushioning the blow. You want to tell him off, GIRL, you do it. (sans lol) Layla’s lace frontal isn’t working, LET HER KNOW. (But feel out all the situation cuz it can be messy at times.) The point is, SPEAK. YOUR. TRUTH.
9. Take chances.
Listen, what’s the worst that can happen? Rejection? Disappointment? Utter failure? Death? In the end, no one accomplished anything from doing nothing. Unless you are a Kardashian or marry one, your life will go nowhere if you don’t make it happen for yourself.
10. Love yourself.
J. Cole said it first, “Baby girl, you a star. Don’t let them tell you you’re not.” There are so many wonderful people that don’t know their own worth. Love you first, so you can demand the love and respect you deserve. (Wow, I’m good.)
11. Practice your passions.
Whatever it is that you do, you can always be better. Improve not only yourself but what you love to do. For me, makeup has become somewhat of an obsession. I started out by using bronzer and foundation and now your girl is contouring TO THE gODS on the daily. Do what you love.
12. Disconnect and Reconnect
I am guilty of using my phone way too much, but this past year I spent more time enjoying my surroundings. Snap streaks and retweets are an integral part of daily communication, however, it’s time to take a break from the screens and enjoy the scene…ery around you. (I tried.)
13. Fake Friends. Cut them off like split ends.
“Me no conversate with the fake.” We are over fake friends and negativity. 2018 is predicted to be a year of friend cleansing. Tamika is talking smack about you? CUT HER OFF. Jason wanna read your text and not reply within 6 minutes? CUT HIM OFFFF. Ya done know.
14. Take some time for yourself.
You don’t always have to be busy. You don’t always have to be working. You don’t have to be constantly surrounded by people. It’s perfectly fine and actually healthy to have a bit of introvert time. Binge watch some shows, read a book or take a stroll. It really works wonders for the psyche.
15. Don’t stress things that are out of your control
This one is a major key when it comes to school work. Let’s say you get a D- on your midterm. God had already predestined the outcome whether you studied for 9 or 0 hours. I can’t change that, I am merely human. Now, this is a two step process that will involve rule #7, trust God. Maybe you failed because God wanted you to graduate late meet the love of your life. (I’m spiraling.) Either way, Let go and let God. (This is just a really preachy way of relieving anxiety, but hey, whatever works. Amirite?)
16. Family is key.
They ain’t wrong when they say blood is thicker than water. Who might “they” be? I don’t know, but they seem like a reliable source. All in all, family is everything. They are the only people in the world that have no choice but to love you. It’s a beautiful concept.
17. Do you, boo.
This one is conglomerate of all the preceding lessons. For one to fully “Do themselves???” would require one to stay woke and speak for what they believe in. To work smart and perfect what they love to do, all the while not stressing about things out of their control and having no regrets about taking chances. “Doing you” is about loving family and rejecting negativity from unwanted people and enjoying the simple things life has to offer. Loving yourself this year and learning to trust God in every situation even if you don’t feel confident in yourself. This coming year I encourage everyone to take a Julia Roberts moment and “Do you, boo.”